I Like Porn cont'd...

Still, there are other arguments about why porn is a bad thing, arguments about it's affects on the viewer, that it desensitizes us to the act and creates false expectations and the extreme right-wingers would even suggest that it promotes criminal deviancy and rape. I have my doubts about all of the above. Just like violence in movies and song lyrics, those with a tendency to get so moved by what they are seeing on the TV screen or hearing in a song that they would commit those acts were already predisposed to violence and would have acted out at some point with or without the stimulation of movies or songs. Such is the same for porn. If everyone who popped in a porno tape became a satyriacal rapist the world would be over run by them. The porno industry is a multi-billion-dollar a year business. It is difficult to find a person living today who has never seen one. This being true it is hard to make the case that porn creates rapists. I don't think there are many people who seriously believe that anyway, even the right-wing fascists who espouse this bullshit probably have stashes of porn in their closets.

But what about porn desensitizing you by reducing sex to its bare mechanics minus the emotions? If all you ever watched was porn that could be a problem. But since most of us are flooded with images of love and romance, even in the most violent horror film or novel or the most brutal action film there is always a love interest and some hint of romance, I don't think anyone's perspective will really get that screwed up by watching a woman get double penetrated by genetic freaks with organs the size of vacuum cleaner hoses. I think most people can divorce fantasy from reality and those who can't, as I said before, had problems long before they picked up Debbie Does Dallas.

Okay, but what about these fantasies that porn creates and supports? Does it create an unrealistic standard for men and women to live up to? It creates a high sexual standard but not an unattainable one. Not every woman wants to have sex three or four times a day in as many positions as the human body can contort. But trust me, many do. If that's what you have to have than go find one. If you are trying to turn your wife or girlfriend into one when she is not than you are wrong. You need to either except her as she is or find someone you are more sexually compatible with. If you are a woman who watches porn and is disappointed that your husband isn't big enough to make love to the Holland Tunnel like some of the mutants in the porn business than go find someone who is or get over it. Porn is not the sole source of dissatisfaction. People who are out looking for the "Bigger Better Deal" will find temptation and a reason to be dissatisfied with their mate just walking down the street. There is always someone with a better body than you or a prettier face. Even if you don't see it you will always hear stories of the sexual exploits of your friends and acquaintances that will make your own life appear mundane. If you need more than get more. Don't start resenting your mate because she can't deep throat like Linda Lovelace or because he can't plunge a toilet with his penis. If you do. It ain't the porno's fault. The flaw lies within.

If you watch pornography and start feeling cheated because your wife doesn't have the body or sexual talents of a porn star then if there was no porn you'd be wishing she had the body of a model, a dancer, some other celebrity, a neighbor, a comic book character, or something from your own imagination. The same goes for women. If you wish your man or woman was a sexual perpetual energy machine than you'd have that desire with or without porn. Porn may show you what's possible but it doesn't show what's probable or the least bit likely. Still, if you look hard enough you can find anything. There is someone for everyone. If the porn directors found one so can you. Just remember that old axiom of the game, "You can't turn a whore into a housewife." But if that's the type of lifestyle you want than go for it. I for one would never condemn anyone for wanting a more passionate life. I just don't believe in making others miserable because they can't live up to the standards of porn stars. I also don't believe that these standards or desires would cease to exist if porn did.

There have been many times in my life where I've thought to myself "Wow. This is like something that happens in a bad porno movie or in one of those letters in Hustler Forums. I never thought this would actually be happening to me!" as I dived headfirst into some orgy, or menage' trois, or sex with some woman I'd met only minutes before. Then those type of unbelievable encounters became commonplace. Same attracts same and soon I could not meet a normal respectable girl anywhere. Every woman I came in contact with was a freak. I was putting out that vibe so I was attracting that type of woman, exclusively at one point. If you are looking for it it is out there. There is nothing wrong with wanting a more passionate more sexually fulfilling life. The only harm comes when you hurt the ones you love, or anyone else for that matter, trying to live that fantasy. I have been there and I can tell you that it had nothing to do with porn. It was all me and my own fucked up issues.

I like porn. I watch it for the acts performed not the people performing them since they almost never have the type of women that I prefer. Skinny model types and gargantuan after-market mammaries are not my thing. Porn does feed the immediate gratification mentality, but I don't think men are any more or less inclined to want their spouses to be willing and ready when they are because of porn. Men and women like to have sex when they are in the mood for sex. We want our spouses to be in the mood for it when we are. This didn't start with porn. I am not a night person and my girlfriend is. Porn didn't cause this problem. I like to do it when the mood strikes not after the house is clean, and dinner is made and eaten, and our favorite TV show is over. By then I'm thinking about sleep not sex. Porn didn't create this dilemma. Wanting a woman that will cater to even your most perverse desires didn't start with porn. Porn did not create this desire. If anything, it fulfills it. If you are with a woman or man who does not cater to your sexual wants and needs than you will either leave them, cheat on them, or silently resent them as your relationship sours with or without porn. My girlfriend and I came to a healthy compromise. Sometimes I wake up for her and sometimes she drops whatever she is doing for me. Other times I pop in a porno tape and supplement my sex life the safe and easy way.

I suppose there are some people who look at a porno movie and think that people are out there having more sex than they are. I, on the other hand, am always surprised at how little sex my friends are having. Watching porn makes me think I'm normal and then I talk to real people and realize that I'm a freak. As far as porn creating unrealistic standards by presenting content explicitly designed for my tastes well, if I'm in a serious relationship with a woman then she's probably explicitly designed for my tastes as well, and presumably I am to her tastes too. If we are not physically and sexually compatible than we would soon part with or without porn. I am done staying in unfulfilling relationships. And since I love to cuddle and am sort of a freak when it comes to the scent and feel of a woman's skin, there is never a danger of sex being reduced to the bare mechanics. I can spend twenty minutes just rubbing my face against a woman's stomach. I love the feel of a woman's skin. I love to love and be loved as much as I love having sex. I love the feel of a woman's arms around me. I love cradling a woman in my arms. I love kissing that spot behind a woman's knee or in the hollows of her collarbones as much as I love kissing that spot between her thighs. I love hearing the words "I love you" as much as I love hearing "Come on, Big Daddy. Cum in my face." I love lying beside my woman watching the sunset as much as I love watching her slowly undress. I love watching her smile as much as I love watching her cum. I love women and nothing I see in a porno movie is going to change that. I love romance. I love passion. I love sex and damn it...I love Porn!